Welcome to the forum. I agree with the advice of posters who say that you should keep your cool and always take the high road. If you do have legitimate concerns, find a way to express them in a loving, caring way. Keep your statements and questions simple. Don't pile on too much at once or none of it will ever sink in.
Until recently, I served as an elder in a JW congregation. We had several JW wives with unbelieving mates. I regret dispensing the counsel I'm about to mention but I, like many JWs, thought I was doing the right thing. Here was the general procedure:
If an unbelieving husband was peaceful, moral and did not try to prevent the sister from attending to her JW duties, then he was viewed as a friend and a potential convert. Occasionally, one of the elders may offer him a Bible study. In some instances, he would be invited to share in JW recreation like a picnic, dinner or other social outing. The sister would be constantly reminded that the husband may be "won without a word," as is mentioned at first Peter 3:1. We would point to the example of a sister in the congregation who followed this advice and eventually, helped to convert her husband.
If an unbelieving husband showed resistance to his wife's association with JWs, then a different approach was taken. He would not receive the special invites and enjoy the camaraderie that is extended to an unbelieving but non-opposing husband. He may get a slightly more formal visit from the JW elders from time to time. But an "opposing" mate is dealt with very carefully so as not to start any fires in the household. The wife would be encouraged to be submissive and respectful but to draw the line when it came to the opposition interfering with her worship to Jehovah (which is, by definition, her participation in JW activities). This would be labeled as one of Satan's tricks. We would also read Mark 13:12 where Jesus said that our own families may try to come between us and our faith. Then, we would point to an example of a faithful sister who has continued serving with the JWs for years, despite the pressures from here unbelieving husband.
Now I ask you, which type of "unbelieving mate" stands the best chance of maintaining a happy marriage? Which one has the best opportunity to get JWs to examine their beliefs?
You'll need patience no matter what course you take. Things may not turn out the way you hope. Lower your outcome expectations and focus on being the best husband you can.
There is another thing to consider and I'm only saying this to be fair to those feel they really need the JW religion to survive. Each person has their own level of personal spiritual needs. Could this course actually be a good thing for your wife? Is there anything you can learn from JWs? I'm not making any recommendations with these questions. I'm just saying that they deserve to be considered.
